try it on

TryonYou would never walk into a store, grab a dress off the rack, pay for it and walk out, would you?  No, you would try it on first!  Especially if it was for an important occasion.

The same should apply for your wedding day!  After witnessing a couple of “wardrobe malfunctions” this summer, bride and groom alike, I have to remind you all:  Please try on your gown or tux before you take it home for the last time!

Yes, you may have had several fittings.  But things can happen between the last fitting and the final pickup.  You could have shed (or stacked) a few pounds.  The seamstress could make a mistake.  The tux supplier could have packed an incorrect vest size.

Open that bag BEFORE you leave the store, and try it on one last time.  Or at least once you get it home.  You do not want to open that bag on the day of the wedding to find out that something is missing or wrong.  It’s so much easier to make corrections or adjustments when you’re not under the gun.

tupai at andina!

So right after our last post about rehearsal dinner ideas, we were lucky enough to wind up atAndina for the Oregon ABC monthly meeting.  This recent Restaurant of the Year winner (2005, Willamette Week) now has developed several private dining spaces and is ready for bridal luncheons, pre-wedding parties, rehearsal dinners, or even small weddings.  We were so charmed by the place we had to let you know about it.

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cultural sensitivity at events

I had a couple of recent experiences that reminded me how important it is to be sensitive to other people’s cultures when working at an event.

One was a wedding with a very diverse attendance, with a professional officiant (that is, a hired officiant that was not from either the bride or groom’s religious, personal, or cultural tradition). This officiant went on to give a speech about marriage and the bride and groom that mentioned (I kid you not) how marriage is like Chinese food — (I paraphrase): ‘It tastes wonderful, but you don’t want to know what’s going into it or see the kitchen where they prepare it’.

It’s hard to describe the feeling I had, as someone of Asian heritage, standing in the back of that ceremony thinking, “Whaaaat?” as part of my ethnic background was used as a punchline for a joke. And I was just part of the staff. Imagine being a guest at the wedding, and the feeling of exclusion and isolation they must have had, when a wedding is supposed to be a day of good feelings and coming together.

So that just reminded me how important it is to use vetted professionals for every aspect of your wedding. I had actually recommended several officiants for this client but they had chosen someone else, I think on the basis of his website. A website can’t tell you everything about a vendor; it’s important to receive trusted recommendations from those who have firsthand experience, such as your event planner.

The other experience I had, was that I attended an educational luncheon given by the International Special Events Society called “Cultural Spotlight”. Fittingly, it was held at the Mittleman Jewish Community Center, and the speakers were an event planner from MJCC as well as a writer who identified himself as a “Spanish-speaking Asian Muslim”.

Both panelists had a lot of wisdom to share about Jewish, Muslim, and Asian events, but the most important takeaway I got was that you can’t assume you know a cultural group. Within Judaism, within Islam, as well as any ethnic or cultural tradition, there are so many flavors and variations. It’s best to ask the main contacts and planners what their preference is, before assuming that you can or can’t play “White Christmas” at a holiday party, or that certain colors or themes are a no-go.

If you’re interested in a list of bullet points from the MJCC talk, please feel free to email me.

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fun rehearsal dinner ideas!

GrandcentralbowlYesterday we were lucky enough to host a little birthday get together (for Andrea of August Veils and Sara of Love, June!) at the newly renovated Grand Central Bowl on SE Morrison, and we must say, the new owners at Concept Entertainment have done a nice job renovating this facility.

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“tatooed” favors…with laser!

We just came across the coolest favor/wedding gift idea and had to share it with you.  Best part is, the company that came up with this idea is local, right here in Portland on NW Thurman!

It’s called Tatuit, and they use laser technology to etch any design you want, from a monogram to even a digital photograph, onto just about any surface you like.

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