Tag: etiquette

{ Wedding Registry Etiquette } Where can I tell my guests about my registry?

Posted on by Emee Pumarega
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Today I received a question from a bride who wanted to know how she should let her guests know about their wedding registry.

“We’ve been wondering how couples typically let their guests know about their wedding gift registry. Is it a part of their mailed invitation, a word of mouth thing, or something else?”

Let it be known: it’s generally frowned upon to put information about gifts or registry into the wedding invitation. The reason is that you would never imply that your guest wasn’t welcome without a gift, right? Nor that attending your wedding comes with an obligation to give a gift. The focus of a wedding invitation should never be on gifts.

That being said, most everyone attending will want to fete you and shower you with blessings and gifts! So you should definitely register for gifts if you want them. But how to let people know about your registry, since you’re not supposed to put it in the invitation?

There are two ways: old-school word of mouth, and new-school wedding websites. Both are etiquette-correct. Simply let your family and friends know where you are registered, and if a guest asks them, your besties/familia can pass the word along.

Or, list it on your wedding website on a secondary page, not the home page. This way, your wedding website acts as your etiquettely-correct, 21st-century word-of-mouth, since by clicking on a link to your registry, your guest is inquiring where you are registered and it’s not you pushing the information at them. And you CAN include a link to your wedding website in the invitation, as long as, again, the focus of the website isn’t the wedding registry but information about the wedding overall such as maps, directions, and the like.

Updated 9/17/2020 by Emee Pumarega.

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Email etiquette tip: the BCC (Blind Carbon Copy) field

Posted on by Emee Pumarega
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Here’s an email etiquette tip some may not know: when you CC: (Carbon Copy) an email to a list of unrelated contacts from your regular account for a group or “blast” email, it’s considered to be poor etiquette. This is because all who receive the email will then be able to view each other’s private email addresses. Your contacts may or may not wish to have their personal or work email broadcast far and wide, and it’s safer to assume that they would rather not.

Next time, use the “BCC:” (Blind Carbon Copy) function to send an email like this. Put your own email address in the TO: field, which  sends it to yourself. Put the list of email addresses that you’re sending to in the BCC: field to keep everyone’s email private.

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Updated 9/17/2020 by Emee Pumarega

Applying for an event planning internship

Posted on by Emee Pumarega

 

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I receive many requests for event planning internships and job shadows.  It is not possible to accommodate the torrent of requests that come in every fall and spring.  How can a candidate differentiate themselves and get a call back?

I think a compelling cover or opening inquiry letter is key.  A phone call may not get picked up, or your call may come at the wrong time (planner on the way to the meeting, onsite at an event, working from home with children, etc.)  In addition, event planners tend to be on the more traditional side when it comes to etiquette (we are asked to be managers  of protocol and guest experiences, after all) and a phone call can feel far too casual.

I saw an event planning internship request come across The Bridal Loft’s inbox the other day that I thought was very well written.  It asked all the right questions, and positioned the candidate as someone who was truly interested in what her target desired in an event planning internship.  This is very different from the common mistakes of starting a cover letter or inquiry with a bunch of “all about me” information and meaningless superlatives (“It is my lifelong dream to work in the wedding industry”). You can bet I noticed this person.

My name is XXXXXX and I am an XXXXXXXXXXX student at XXX. Time is soon coming to apply for internships and I am very interested in yours. I would love to know what you expect from your interns and what you will be looking for in portfolios and resumes. When would be the right time to apply and what method would you prefer. Would you rather an online portfolio or a printed copy? I was also wondering if this was a paid internship or purely for the joy of the experience. Thank you so very much for your time and I hope to hear back from you soon.

Sincerely,
XXXXXXXXXXXX

 

This post was updated on 9/17/2020 by Emee Pumarega